Counselling for copers

I’m taking the plunge. It’s long overdue. If you think you’re ‘coping’ with your grief, or you’re worried about talking to a stranger, read this post and you might find that bit of courage to open up and allow the wound to heal.

These Widow's Shoes

An article on grief counselling that I wrote recently for the Pilgrims Hospices website

Despite being very keen to encourage my late husband  to take up Pilgrims’ offer of counselling, and being, in theory, very open to the idea of going to it myself, in reality I was a bit slow to take it up; I remember saying  “Oh I’m fine… I’m managing… I don’t think I need it.”

I’d wager that a heck of a lot of people, caregivers and patients, have resisted having counselling, or at least procrastinated about it, using reasons like that. The implication is that counselling is only for the ‘non-copers’, those who are ‘struggling’ or ‘not managing’. If you’re doing a half-decent job of keeping your chin up, cracking on and ‘coping just fine thank you’, then what good can talking to a counsellor do? “I’m FINE!” we cry.

But on my first…

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6 thoughts on “Counselling for copers

  1. An important step. Being able to talk to someone who is neutral, offers no opinions etc, just allows you to talk, is hugely valuable. Not easy, but valuable. Hugs xxx

  2. This was well-timed for me as I’m giving it a go too next week, and already I’m having the same “don’t really need to”s and the “don’t want to waste anyone’s time”s…. This put it in perspective, thank you. X

    • Great Emma. I think we always think our problem isn’t important. I even apologise when I see a doctor! It’s not nice to feel so weak but it’s a strength to admit you need help. I hope it goes well for you x

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