2 thoughts on “Parenting in grief

  1. I think each day it’s difficult to discipline. My story is a lot different than yours though, I lost my baby girl Hannah suddenly at 10 weeks. I never got the chance to really be a parent to her, not in the discipline sense. Her big sister is almost six. She had her first year of Kindergarten and such a huge chance socially in her life this year. It has only been 7 months since her little sister’s passing. My main driving force is the guilt, I cannot let my surviving child feel like I checked out when Hannah died. My focus to parenting my oldest has changed, I care more about how she treats and understands others than I do if her room is clean. I do not accept things like whining and tantrums because I want her to realize that, life happens…There’s nothing you can do sometimes except move on, not because you want to but because you have to. I feel like my sole priority with her now is to be a spiritual parent to her, help her to know God and realize how important that relationship is and to make sure she has empathy and cares for others. I may muck it up too, but you can only do what your heart tells you at this point.

    1. Thank you Shana. You show such strength in your comment. I’m so sorry that Hannah died. It seems you have a strong understanding of how this could affect you both and are consciously parenting now rather than raising a child without really thinking of the bigger picture. I think we can get caught up in micromanaging our children. God bless you all x

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