Category Archives: The Comfort Zone

A place to share stories of child loss, discuss aspects surrounding living with grief and browse resources for help and support.

What on earth do I say to a bereaved mum? It’s simple, STALL

It can seem like there’s plenty of advice about what not to do when it comes to grief. I’ve written a number of emotional posts about how some people get it ‘wrong’ when talking (or not!) to a beavered parent, such as this one and this one. While my rants are only one element of...

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Comforting colouring pages

Colouring is an effective meditative and calming activity. Sometimes, when you’re feeling particularly low there is simply nothing you can do. Your mind is fuzzy, you feel confused, deeply sad, and detached from those around you. Keeping a colouring book handy is a good idea; however, for times when you need something ‘here and now’...

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Attending a first aid course as a grieving parent

This weekend was stressful and emotional, as well as coming down with the obligatory back-to-school cold. I finally plucked up the courage to attend a first aid course and it’s taken me some time to process what I learnt, and to deal with the memories and emotions that it stirred up. Continue reading → Share...

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Dust to dust – interring Abi’s ashes

Following on from My Great Loves guest post about turning back into dust, I wanted to share our experience of interring Abi’s ashes. Choosing a burial or cremation is a decision I really wasn’t prepared for when Abi died. I knew she’d died and that we’d have to have a funeral, but I just didn’t...

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Guest post: Saying goodbye had to be perfect (for you)

This personal and deeply moving guest post was kindly written for our blog by The Tangerine Owl Project. It recounts a grieving mother’s determination to plan a beautiful memorial for her baby daughter who lived for just 27 days.  As I recall the days in the NICU and the loss of Delilah, I often wonder...

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The whirlpool of grief

A note before you read: I wrote this a few weeks after Abi died, when my grief was still very fresh and raw. It’s become one of the most-read posts on this blog, because the ‘whirlpool’ image – closely linked to the well-known Kübler-Ross stages of grief – seems to resonate with so many people...

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