It can seem like there’s plenty of advice about what not to do when it comes to grief. I’ve written a number of emotional posts about how some people get it ‘wrong’ when talking (or not!) to a beavered parent, such as this one and this one. While my rants are only one element ofContinueContinue reading “What on earth do I say to a bereaved mum? It’s simple, STALL”
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5 unique self-care ideas to navigate grief
When you’re grieving, doing anything to care for yourself can seem an effort, and even cause you more stress. I’ve shared five ways I found to look after myself in the early years of grief.
Should I take antidepressants for my grief?
Dear grieving mum, I’m sorry you’ve found my blog by searching with the keywords ‘antidepressants’ ‘grief’ ‘death of my child’… I’m truly sorry. Behind each of my posts, IÂ see parents read my blog searching for the answer to this question because they are looking for some respite from the strain of coping with grief whileContinueContinue reading “Should I take antidepressants for my grief?”
You don’t have to ‘get over’ your grief just because it’s Christmas
It’s no surprise that Christmas is a difficult time for the grieving. For us, the period begins with Abi’s birthday at the end of November, we then have the four weeks until Christmas and then New Year, followed not long afterwards by the anniversary of the time we lost her. Next February will be fourContinueContinue reading “You don’t have to ‘get over’ your grief just because it’s Christmas”
Living with joy and sorrow when grieving for your child
After you’ve lost a child, you somehow find ways to live on. You don’t actively seek ways to help your situation, the adjustment sort of happens by itself. When people say to you ‘I don’t know how you cope’, you look at them blankly, and most likely simply say ‘I just do’. But it makesContinueContinue reading “Living with joy and sorrow when grieving for your child”
Take me home – a pop song prayer
When trying to rebuild a life that’s been broken – it can feel like you’re grappling in the darkness, utterly alone, tired, afraid. Even the simplest routines go out of sync, the pace of life seems five steps faster than what we can manage. We’re barely breathing. Fear, grief, faith, hope all mingle into a mess that leaves usContinueContinue reading “Take me home – a pop song prayer”
My journey: a mother’s testimony through grief
I’ve got to know Vicky through our mutual journey through loss and faith, and our blogs. We both write about our emotions and thoughts as a way to process our experiences. Vicky’s story is very different from mine; however, our views are very similar. Vicky has shared her faith testimony on her blog which I wouldContinueContinue reading “My journey: a mother’s testimony through grief”
What happens when we die? Explaining death to your child
When thinking about death we have so many questions and very few answers. It’s where the fear and disbelief stem from. Children are renown for saying exactly, and frankly, what’s on their minds. They also have questions which we can find hard to answer, especially when our grief is so raw and we feel lost inContinueContinue reading “What happens when we die? Explaining death to your child”
Loving my children after losing my child
While, of course, I loved my children before Abi died, that love has changed quite dramatically since. I gave birth to Abi, back in 2000, and it wasn’t long before my second child was on her way. She arrived when Abi was 22 months old. Back then, I worked 4 days a week and my husbandContinueContinue reading “Loving my children after losing my child”
Dealing with my son’s sudden illness while grieving my daughter’s sudden death
Experiencing one of my children falling suddenly ill has revealed much about how grief has impacted me, as a mother who is grieving the sudden death of another of my children. Last weekend, my son scared us. The anxiety and fear flooded back in and we fought with everything we had to hold it together. Losing Abi was the worst thing imaginableContinueContinue reading “Dealing with my son’s sudden illness while grieving my daughter’s sudden death”
Chasing Dragonflies 