A bereaved parent can appear to be coping well until a challenging event such as Christmas arrives. When a bereaved friend appears to withdraw there is a very good reason and it’s all part of the new life with grief…
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A letter to my daughter on her 24th heavenly birthday
To Abi, It’s suddenly your 24th birthday and each year it hits me a bit different. This year, I realised that you are now the same age I was when I had you. It’s been hard to balance that fact in my mind. At once I am transported back to those heady, happy days ofContinueContinue reading “A letter to my daughter on her 24th heavenly birthday”
Staying married when you’re mourning
I realise not everyone who reads this is married, or even in a relationship, and we all have unique experiences, but I wanted to give my perspective of marriage after loss, which some may relate to or take comfort from. One of the first things we heard after Abi had died – quite unbelievably reallyContinueContinue reading “Staying married when you’re mourning”
From cradle to grave
Today, I took my 9-year-old son to his football match. It’s normally Dad who does the football matches, but it had been almost a year since I’d seen my son play due to having the new baby and he asked if I’d go and watch him. He’s been appreciating some one-to-one time with me ofContinueContinue reading “From cradle to grave”
Remembering Abi on her 16th birthdayÂ
Having just seen Abi’s 16th birthday come and go, I realised it never gets easier. This is her fourth birthday in heaven. Abi’s 13th birthday was ten months after she died, in 2013. It felt unbearable. She was so looking forward to becoming a teenager, she’d already been thinking about what she might do. We hadContinueContinue reading “Remembering Abi on her 16th birthday “
Reinstating our children’s bedtime routine
The last time my hubby and I sat in front of the telly in the lounge with our children all in bed upstairs was around 4th February 2013, over three years ago. We always had a fairly reasonable bedtime routine for our three children. Upstairs around 8pm, get ready and then a story. As Abi and herContinueContinue reading “Reinstating our children’s bedtime routine”
Before and after our grief
My husband’s car is on its last legs. We need to start thinking about replacing it before we spend too much more on it. He’s put it off for far too long and spent too much money keeping it going, but I know he loves the car mostly because of the times he spent withContinueContinue reading “Before and after our grief”
What Disney’s Inside Out taught me about grief and loss
I recently took my daughter, age 12, to watch Inside Out. It was a rare day that we had alone and I felt it would be a poignant film to see together. Having researched the film (which I have to do with anything I expose my children to), I was impressed by the reviews whichContinueContinue reading “What Disney’s Inside Out taught me about grief and loss”
A grieving mother’s bucket list – catching frogs and drinking good coffee!
I recently bumped into an old friend, someone I’d not seen in around 20 years. We had a nice chat about the main aspects of what we’ve done with our lives, as you do, and we got onto the subject of fitness. My friend revealed she was entered into a marathon and was working outContinueContinue reading “A grieving mother’s bucket list – catching frogs and drinking good coffee!”
The dark side of grief – craving escape from the mental and physical pain of loss
I recently went for my first month check-up at the doctors, to see how I’ve settled taking the antidepressants. For anyone who has not taken antidepressants before, or who hasn’t experienced anxiety – and especially for those grieving mummas out there who are finding that anxiety and depression are adding to their grief, I wantedContinueContinue reading “The dark side of grief – craving escape from the mental and physical pain of loss”
Chasing Dragonflies 